Hi, I'm Suzana

Founder of All the Things Coaching.

My Story 

All it takes is one good friend to point you in the right direction. I remember it clearly.  I was complaining to a nurse at work about all the injustices and burnout we were all facing at work.  And then she said the words that would change my life. “The problem is you. Yes, there are shitty things here, but you are miserable to be around.”It was like she slapped me across the face. But I think deep down, I already knew this. See this friend is the person who is going to tell you like it is. And that is probably why I went to her instead of someone else who would just commiserate and buy into the story I was telling myself.

 So let’s back up a little and talk about what was really happening in my life. I had the husband that I loved and adored. I had the two kids, boy and girl, that I always wanted. Not only did I have the job I worked so hard for, but I had also just been offered a promotion. So what was so wrong? Well, it turns out it was a little bit of everything. It was work and feeling burnt out there.  It was feeling unfulfilled at the end of the day so I would snack and drink wine. The next day I would be tired and disappointed with myself and then snap at my kids or my husband. Then, of course, the guilt for not being the perfect mother, wife, and employee. Rinse and repeat. And the thing is that I was telling myself if my husband just complimented me more, if the kids would be better behaved, if my job would just change, then I would be happy and fulfilled again. I truly believed it was everyone else’s fault until I heard those words, “the problem is you.” Here is the thing, there was not one part of my life that was wrong.  It was exactly what I had worked so hard to achieve. But while it was all great, it was also all just a little bit off. And it wasn’t like there was a major problem in one specific area. It was that things were just a little bit off in everything.  It was ALL THE THINGS.

Now I had dabbled in listening to the Life Coach School Podcast and had hired a coach in the past but had never stuck with it. This time, however, with the cold hard truth that I was the root of my problems, I knew I had no other choice but to fully commit to creating the life that I knew I wanted. So I hired a life coach and got to work. Now, I know that this sounds hokey, but it really did change my life. You see, I wasn’t depressed. I didn’t have one big deep-seated issue that I needed to resolve. In short, I didn’t feel like I needed a therapist.  And while my friends were awesome, they were more likely to sympathize with me and join in my story about how the whole world was unfair to me. 

Through this work, I was able to uncover the things in my life that I truly valued. I realized that I didn’t need to change, I just needed to remember who I really was and what I really value. Since hiring a coach, I have lost fifteen pounds, started working out regularly, and cut down on my “mommy wine” at night. During this time, my parents have had major health issues and there have been other family dramas that have occurred. Despite those challenges, I was still able to cut out the things in my life that simply don’t align with my values and filled my days with what really and truly matters. Don’t get me wrong, I still have crap days where I am angry, stressed, and overwhelmed. That’s just part of being human.  But now I am able to recognize them for what they are, just a bad day.